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Five Minute Friday: Garden

Five Minute Friday is a writing event that has hundreds of writers spending five minutes writing on the same topic and then sharing them at This week's word is Garden.
I hate Valentine's Day. I wasn't particularly fond of it when I was married. How does your significant other live up to the hype if he doesn't walk through the door with dozens of flowers, a huge box of chocolates, and something from Kay's Jewelers? But when you are single, the day can be filled with doubts about yourself and dread that you will never be loved again.

Today instead of posting on Facebook my hatred of the holiday, I decided to plant a seed of encouragement. Instead of a diatribe about this over-sensationalized day, I decided to do my best to help someone and I wrote this as my Facebook status:

If Valentine's Day is bringing sadness instead of heart-shaped tokens, remember this: You matter and you are loved. 365 days a year. Don't let a date on a calendar tell you otherwise.

It has received several likes and several comments but what I'm hoping is that it is received by someone who needs to hear it, who may have been embarrassed to like it or comment on it but was pulled out of the darkness of this day that's all about romantic love and lifted up towards the light of a love that is so much bigger.  I hope that my status is a seed that starts a garden of self-love in someone who was feeling every emotion but self-love on this day and that seed propagates into a feeling for the other 364 days of the year.


  1. Andrea, I absolutely LOVE your post! I have been thinking more than ever this year about how this "day" is so fickle. For everyone! I have kicked myself in the rear more often than not by my expectations. I love that you decided to sow seeds of encouragement instead of going on the negative rant. You encouraged me! Visiting from right behind you at FMF! Blessings!

  2. Blessings to you too! Thank you Anne!


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