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Five Minute Friday: Here

Here - not in the past, not in the future - here.

Here - not with people who have left, not with people I want in your life - here with the people that are present in my life now.

I've thought a lot about these ideas recently. I dwell so much on the past and how I thought things would have been or dwell on how I'd like things to be in the future that I don't enjoy here, where I'm at now. Sometimes I'm afraid that I'm going to look around one day and realize that there was this great life going on around me and I was so busy looking back or forward that I didn't look side to side to what I had right then.

I'm also bad about this when it comes to people. I miss people for a really long time, holding on to what could/should have been. I also long for people that I think I want in my life, people I think will make me matter. When I stop that kind of thinking, I realize that I currently have some pretty great people in my life, people that are probably much better for me and more of what I need than what I think I want.

Here is where I should be. Here in this moment, enjoying the things I'm experiencing right now.


  1. Oh such a word! To savor the now and not long for what is to come...I'm joining you in that and in cherishing those in my life even now. Blessings to you!

  2. To not look around, but instead to enjoy the present. This has been on my mind a lot lately as well. Thanks for sharing.

  3. oohhhh I tend to do that too with people....note to self.....don't!! Great post! Thank you!!


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