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Five Minute Friday: Lonely

When I read the word of the week, I shook my head and thought "I don't want to write another sad post". I am lonely a lot of days. I know the saying, "You're lonely but not alone" but when you are sitting in a house by yourself that you used to share with someone else, you feel lonely and alone. It doesn't matter that other people are just a phone call or Facebook post away, you feel alone.

So this Friday, I took steps to step away from feeling alone. I usually go home for lunch each day but when a friend sent an email about a lunchtime gathering, I replied to the email with a "yes" before my brain could think about it. I had a wonderful lunch full of laughter and camaraderie and it was so much better than a sandwich eaten on my couch.

In the evening, I did something really scary and met 8 new people. A co-worker invited me to a game night at her home, one attended by "every single man she knows". Single meaning not married. I'm not really a big game person and I was TERRIFIED of meeting the single men but the desire to see her home and get to know her husband better overtook the reluctance and fear. I had a very enjoyable evening. My co-worker and I ended up watching a movie while the others played a card game in the other room and I'm not sure any of the single men were for me but it felt good to step out of my comfort zone and be rewarded by spending an evening with some really nice people.

Hopefully the memories of time spent with friends, old and new, will make that alone feeling a fleeting thought.

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  1. here for five minute Friday:)

    Thanks for your reminder to reply to new and scary with yes- I'm not always good at it, but I don't ususally regret it! :)

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  2. Stopping by from FMF, so glad you stepped outside your comfort zone! It's hard to do, I know!

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  3. Your post wasn't sad. It was a story of courage.

    Laura Hedgecock
    http://www.TreasureChestofMemories.com
    http://www.twitter.com/LauraLHedgeock

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